Love Tickets

I read one of my favorite blogs this summer (stacy julian) http://stacyjulian.com/blog/?p=59 and got this great idea from all three of her posts. We have a chore chart for each of the kids. B doesn't use his yet. Chuck loves her. She can earn 14 flowers/butterflies each day. For each one earned she gets a nickel. These are her "chores". For the love tickets she has to go above and beyond. She has to do something that shows her love for someone without being asked. She collects these tickets to turn them in for "things." For 3 tickets she can choose to get a sonic slush, go to the little park in our neighborhood, go to the library, get an extra bedtime story, play a board game or stay up 10 minutes later at night. For 5 tickets she can play her leapster, v-smile or watch an extra 30 minute show. (On good days she only gets 1 1/2 hours of tv. For 10 tickets she can go to the science museum, go to the zoo, go to the big park (route 66), get a snow cone or get french fries & play at McD's. So far, she loves these more than real money. She would rather cash in her tickets for extra time up. If she asks for a ticket she does not get it. She also does not get one every time she does something nice. I want to reward her for showing love but I don't want her to expect something in return when she does something nice. There are some days when I have had a really hard day at school and she is being so obedient and a good listener that I will give her a love ticket. She also gets them quite a bit for how she treats her brother. Today she got one for helping him take his shoes and jacket off and making sure that they were put away. She really is a great kid!